May 8, 2007
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THE TRUTH THE WHOLE TRUTH
I am going to tell anyone who wishes to listen to this a story. This is a true story from start to finish and then after this I am going to be done with the whole thing. I just need to do this for me because I am just so tired of hearing what some people are saying trying to make me out to look like a bad ,trying to make me look like I made them move here and give up what they had. And also maybe some day so my grand children will know the truth. And then this will be the last time that I will have anything to say on the matter.
Back in I believe it was May of 2006 my father was arrested for doing something he should not have done. He was selling drugs. After my mother dies in 2002 he got mixed up with the wrong kind of people trying to fill the void that was left in his heart. He will be away for 4 ½ years. Of course I will give my Dad a chance to change and get better and I will stick by him this time. I called my oldest son who loved in Pennsylvania and asked him if he felt he could come down here and help me to try to save the home that my father and my mother had together. At that point my dad still had crack head living in there trying to act like his friends. My son said that he thought he could do it. I thought that was great we would be able to save my Dads things and the home that he and my Mother bought together.
I had such a hard time getting the other people out. Since about 2 years ago when I moved out of the house it has gone down hill and there was a lot that needed to be done. I could not do anything as long as the people were living there. They had filed a tress pass against me and I could not go on the property. Some time in late June my son called me to tell me they ( he and his family) were selling there things and having all kinds of yard sales. I told them not to NOT yet, things were not ready for them. They did it anyway and got here some time in July I believe it was. They stayed in a motel for a few days till they ran out of money. I had them stay in my home for about 1 week and I could not handle all the commotion and neither could my boyfriend. Be have a very quit laid back kind of life no screaming and yelling or disrespecting one another.
Let me go back just a bit here I do not want to leave anything out. My son has a wife and 5 children of his own AGES 10-4-3-2-1. When they came here 3 were still in diapers. They also had another teenager with them someone they said they had guardianship of. Never left this girls family know they were moving to Florida just up and left. This girl had issue of here own and really could not be trusted. She was angry and should not have been aloud to take care of the children herself. My grand children were not hers but yet she was always being told to do this and that for them. Things went bad and I was called to help what can I do I don’t know this girl I was going to let her stay in my home till her mother could be located but she would not promise me that she would follow the rules. In the end she was put in a runaway home and eventually shipped back up north to her family.
Finally we got the last of the people out of my dads house and I could finally get in to look around. It was worse than I had thought it was! So many repairs had to be made and so much clean up had to be done! What could I do my son brought his family here. I could not keep them in my house any more just could not do it. I helped them clean up some enough that I could get them in the house.
With 5 children now a says pretty much both parents should be working that is the only way a family can survive. Well only my daughter in law was working. With my son being home I figured he could clean up and start making repairs on the place and at first he did start doing that but then it all stopped. They (my son and his family did NOTHING thought that I should pay to do all of this. This house was going to be handed down to THEM but I was supposed to pay for everything for them and take care of my own home. ?????? Does that seem right or fair to anyone out there? NOW REMEMBER I DID TELL THEM NOT TO COME JUST YET THINGS WOULD NOT BE READY FOR THEM!!!
The mortgage on the house is 500.00 a month and then there are taxes on the property and the electric bill that needed to be paid. My son and his family lived there for 8 months and paid the rent 2 times and they paid only one electric bill. I for the most part paid all the other for them. Some of the payments came out of my dads checking account but not much. I my self am out close to 3,000.00 dollars for paying these bills. Plus I help them several month to get food and diapers for the children. I did not mind doing the food and the diapers. Some times that is what grand parents are for.
Things between my son and my self started going bad when I said enough was enough and I could no longer pay any bills for them. If the power got shut off it got shut off. I could not pay there bill, my bills and the money needed for my medical needs. I just could not do it. I told them I could not do it that they would have to find another place to stay I would have to sell the house or it would be foreclosed on. They kept giving me well next week no next month we will pay all we owe but it never happened. After a while I did not believe any promise that I would be given because I figure they were just empty words.
My health was going down fast because of all of the stress and worry that I was being exposed to. I worried about the safety of my grand children I worried about loosing my home because of having of pay their bills. Now even though I told them I could not pay and we were going to loose the house they were NOT making any effort to leave.
I went to the house one day to start packing my fathers things up to get them in to storage and all hell broke loose the police were called. My son pushed me and denied it. My word against his and the police believed him because no one saw it and I was not marked. At that point a tress pass was filed against me. I then had 2 choices. Let them stay there till the finance company took the home back and anything of my mother and fathers would be lost or call family services and tell them what the condition of the house was like. I was now factoring on the safety of the children. No work was being cone even thought I bought the materials for the work to start. I had some one who would come in and do the work but the children could not be there while being done my son would not go for that. The person who was going to do the work did not want to work with power tools around the kids kind of a safety issue.
Oh yes they left them after the authorities were involved. When they left there was poop smeared all over, things that belonged to my mother and father were taken. A rose bush that they knew meant much to me was stomped on, every light, heater and air conditioner in the place was left on as a way to run up the bill I suppose. I found my mothers collection of old record albums with poop smeared all over them and half of them out of the record jackets. This that she collected and took care of some since before I was even born. Ketchup or BBQ sauce was pored all over one of the bed room floors. Every dresser draw was nailed shut closets nailed shut dirty diapers all over. Any toy that I got for the children left behind. Pictures that belonged to my father of my self torn up all over.
Now here is the BIG difference since they have left. A friend of mine has taken over the mortgage and the bills. Everything has been paid in full and on time and in most cases paid early. They have started to make repairs and clean up. And the place as far as I am concerned and my Dad is theirs now. All of these things my son could have done but chose not to. It has been said that I should not have expected that much out of the a family of seven with one income. I am sorry but if there is a family of 7 and they have one income is that their choice or my choice?
I keep hearing about how my oldest grand son is having a hard time about how I turned my back on my blood kin. Tell me any one out there, What more could I have done that I did not already do? I love my grand children with all of my heart and always will. I just feel that it is so sad because I know that they are being fed so many un truths about the whole situation.
I am not saying the house was in great shape as a matter of fact it was a dump but if I had been given some time to go in clean up and fix a few things my self before they made the big move I know things would have been different. Is it my fault that they jumped the gun and came down before the house was even empty let alone cleaned and fixed up? I know that some day my grand children will grow up and know the truth. I know in my heart that GOD will show them the truth. I will also love my son forever after all he is my son. I have tried to embrace his wife and love her but she will not allow it. Maybe since she has not grown up with a mother of her own she does not know how to love as a daughter. I don’t know I guess I never will.
Now in my life I have to work on my health and the stress of all of this is not helping so this IS the last that anyone will hear of this matter from me. If others that are involved do not wish to let it drop and continue on it that is on them not me. I just wanted to set the record straight for anyone who wanted to hear the WHOLE story not just half truths. THANK-YOU
I HOPE THE POEPLE WHO TRULY NEED TO SEE THIS DO SEE IT!
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