February 11, 2007
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Ok everyone this is the update that I promised. i have shared all about my Dads situation. Well i has gotten worse. He will no longer get Social Security Retirement. He can not get that while in jail. (i did not think he could) That means no money to pay the mortgage on the house. I know that I can not pay his mortgage. I asked my sone if he would want to stay there and keep up with all the bills and fix the place up. Well he wanted the house signed over to him. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! Any way I have been blaming myself and falling apart thinking that I failed Dad. I did not fail anyone or anything. All that is happening on Dads part is because of what he did, not because of something I did.
I have let go of everything that is not mine. Dad loosing the house becasue of what he did. and my son being where he is in life becaue of the life he wants to live. If he ends out in the street on his butt it is because of what he has done, the life that he chooses to live. I feel bad for the children. But I can not support them all. I stopped having kids myself long ago becauwse I could not afford anymore.
Any way I did see Dad yesterday. What a long drive to see him! 5 hours to get there. I left Friday after work and drove up got a motel and spent the night. I got to the prison early and was able to spend 4 hours with my Dad. Contact visit So I was able to give him a hug have not been able to do that for more than a year. I was such a nice visit. And the fact that my Dad admitted to me that this was all his doing no one elses just made my heart soar! It ment so mucy to me that he addmitted what he done.
Today I have a busy day. I am going to get a couple of for sale signs and put them on the house for now and then I am going to start getting what I can out of the house. Dad wants me to have a yard sale and sell what we can. but I have a storage unit ad I am going to get everything that I can out of the house first.
Everyone have a happy Day.
Comments (3)
If you signed the house over to your son, no doubt he would sell it fast! The house is your dad's life and much as it would please you to save it, you can't go under doing it. A house is a lot of work and cost money to upkeep at times a burden. Your dad when he gets out of prison may be better off with an apartment with less upkeep. Never feel any quilt because you are looking out for yourself above those who are grown and able to take care of their own needs. You have to take care of you and not allow them to pull them under with you. I know it's hard with those you love but unless their willing to help them self it's worthless engery to try to help. You just become a crutch. Good Luck with the sale. {{hugs}}
Remeber always it's not your fault what happend! You are so burnden im sorry. love fancy
you are doing the best thing you can do.
Don't sweat it.. if things go wrong remember YOU didn't do anything to cuase this.
Your dad did.
You are just trying to clean things up.
You take care of yourself and let the chips fall where they may...because in the end, we each pay for our own mistakes.... you didn't do this... he did.
take care,
Tina
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